Eat The Pussy Correctly Or Starve

Recently, I found myself contemplating my relationship with oral sex. After my recent experience with being left unsatisfied in a committed relationship, I couldn’t help but think back to the times I was left completely satisfied with no complaints. The funny revelation I came to know is that my want for oral sex had become dependent upon if my partner was skilled enough to satisfy me.

There were times I had been in relations with pussy-eating- connoisseurs that gave me mind-blowing head to the point where they could’ve easily been my sugar baby. There had also been times I had relations with individuals that thought they were hitting it out of the park with their tongue game but I wanted nothing more than to throw them, their tongue, and the sexual experience down the garbage chute where it all belonged.

As a woman that prides herself on being sexual and openly confesses her love for sex, I was slightly annoyed by the fact that I had grown so exhausted with teaching, directing, and suggesting ways oral sex could be improved that I began basing my want for it on the talents or lack thereof on my partners.

Eating a vagina is an art and not everyone that claims to “have no problem doing it” or are self-proclaimed professional pussy eaters have the slightest idea on how to actually please a woman in that way.

In 2021, The Bad Girls Bible conducted a survey on 1,058 women asking them: Do women like receiving oral sex? When looking at their findings, I was floored by some of the statistics. 55.9% of women selected “bad technique” as the cause of unsatisfying oral sex.

Here’s the thing… to each is truly its own. A woman knowing her body enough to confidently direct her partner is one-half of the equation but there has to be a willingness to learn and explore ways to uniquely satisfy a woman. Not every woman has the same preferences in techniques; however, I am a firm believer that you can make someone a believer if their bodies are explored correctly. Some women literally don’t know how pleasurable oral sex could be to them simply because of the lack of technique being demonstrated.

Now I don’t know about y’all but after the pandemic, I vowed that life was too short to have dissatisfying sexual experiences with anyone. Quite frankly, the time has come to tell your sexual partner/s to eat the pussy correctly or starve.

I don’t proclaim to know what every woman knows or wants because each one of us is different. Oral sex can lead to the most satisfying orgasms ever but the techniques are crucial to having those. Personally, I love a partner that can get me to the finish line no matter how they decide to eat me out. I feel as though giving head is like a snowflake … no two times should be alike. If a woman can calculate what’s going to happen and the order in which it will happen you need to put a little more effort into your technique.

I have found that there are a few pointers that really could help one improve their ability to please when giving oral sex to a woman. It wouldn’t be me if there wasn’t a hint of sarcasm and humor but please know that each pointer is based on real concerns from women in real experiences. The gworls are simply ready to receive a life-changing head that makes their legs feel like spaghetti and there’s nothing wrong with that!

“Stop eating my pussy hard that s*** aggravating” — Freak Nasty by Megan The Stallion

This is a major no-no. The entire pelvic area of a woman has just about 15,000 nerve endings. The clitoris in particular has 8,000 nerve endings. Eating the pussy aggressively doesn’t mean it’s being eaten to satisfaction. It just means that you’re eating the pussy as though it owes you money and that ain’t the answer! Knowing the right pressure to apply with the lips and tongue goes a long way. You don’t have to apply all the pressure in the world to get the job done.

“Don’t even tell me where your spot at. Imma find it.” — Kevin Gates from Caresha Please Interview

I believe it comes to a point in every woman’s journey that she has to part with partners who literally don’t get it and aren’t trying to. There’s something extremely attractive about a partner that takes the time to explore your body and learn what makes you go crazy. It shows true dedication to your satisfaction and that is always something worth being acknowledged. But then there are those that don’t get it and those are the ones to stay far away from. Some people take their inability to satisfy someone as a diss to their character as opposed to an opportunity to explore. If someone meets your expression of your sexual needs with their ego … LEAVE. This person is more satisfied with the idea of being great in bed than actually being open to ways they could actually be better. When someone is truly interested in you and growing the sexual relationship they will listen to the needs being expressed and practice every time they get a chance to.

Lesbian porn is a tutorial !

Once upon a time, I dated an entire virgin. I swore it was time to change “my type” and what was more opposite of drug dealers, athletes, and businessmen than a virgin in college? It was all good until it actually came time to have sex. The man was blessed with 10 inches but he had no idea what to do with it and the worst part of our sex life was most certainly his inability to give me head. I found myself getting frustrated because every time I was supposed to be enjoying head, I was looking down giving him plays on how to eat me out correctly or cutting the show short entirely. One day as he went down doing absolutely nothing appeasing to my pussy, I decided that I would find a perfect tutorial …. Lesbian porn! He definitely wasn’t receptive because at first, he was more focused on the fact that I broke out the video mid-sex than the fact that a tutorial was so necessary. But then he actually started observing how the women were pleasuring one another and started modeling on me what he saw. Now I’m not saying it was the best head I had ever gotten but it was the best I had ever received from him. All in all, I think watching porn prior to sex can be a very fun thing if it’s done correctly. It can be used to “scout” for new positions and techniques that can spice the bedroom up. Don’t sleep on the power of visual learning. It works wonders… literally!

“ Just do it “ — Nike

Nothing is more attractive than a partner that knows when to just do it! Keep in mind consent is non-negotiable but there are times when being taken by surprise does the trick.

Just as men enjoy getting sucked off without putting in a request 2 weeks in advance, women enjoy the same treatment! Women are naturally dominant when they are catering to others in their lives so receiving the same energy when receiving oral sex is appealing.

Women are told to be modest and to be “the catch” instead of “ the chase” so too often, a lot of time is spent in our heads going back and forth about if we should or shouldn’t ask for head on the spot. Personally, I love occasionally requesting for head because it always catches my partner off guard to see me dominate in that way. I encourage women to make random requests more often and for men to just offer them more frequently and freely.

“ Master technique and then forget about it and be natural” — Anna Pavlolva

I’m pretty sure Anna wasn’t talking about oral sex but it’s applicable as hell! Learning about and applying new techniques can really lead to a good time for all involved. Most people are sexually skeptical until they have experiences that make them change their skepticism.

For instance, I’m not really big on being fingered but when done correctly I actually appreciate and enjoy it and the euphoria it provides. It has to be infused into the sexual act of eating me out and it can’t be done too aggressively.

Technique…it’s not about what you’re doing at times more than it’s about how you’re doing it.

It’s not a race …its a journey

Here’s the thing…the purpose of eating a woman’s pussy is to ensure she has an orgasmic experience that causes her body to contort in ways that leads to her having a beautiful climax. Speeding through eating the pussy, isn’t it ever!

It’s recommended that women experience at least 10–11 minutes of foreplay before penetration. If you’re going to infuse it into foreplay, be sure not to “drag out” the journey because you can take her to the edge without pushing her over it.

Oral sex can actually be weaved through the whole sexual experience without it being limited to foreplay. Timing is just as important as knowing pace. Details matter when it comes to pleasing a woman. Remembering them could really lead to elevated experiences filled with pleasure and complete satisfaction.

Performing oral sex can be an act of intimacy that creates trust as much as it creates pleasure. Doing it with passion and understanding that there are techniques to maximize your partner’s experience will help you a great deal. Let her know how much you want to eat her and then actually do as you say you would do. It can be just as pleasurable as penetrable sex if done with intention. She’ll thank you dearly for doing so.